Wholesome Advice

Post a simple, concise statement of advice. Something practical or otherwise, the kind of thing you wish somebody would have told you before you learned it on your own.


I'll start:

- When cooking in a pan, it is rarely ever necessary to go above medium heat. When in doubt, start with a lower heat than you think might be necessary.

- You can save a fortune from your utility bill by turning off heating and air conditioning. You've got coats and jackets for cold weather anyhow, might as well use them. For hot weather, just take clothes off!

- Women need a consistent source of positive attention in order to not become gremlins. If you are worried about your lady friend becoming a gremlin, try waking her up in the middle of the night just to tell her that you love her. It's ok to do this two or more times a night.

- When camping, ten extra minutes spent preparing your sleep spot could mean hours more of better sleep.

- Never under appreciate the value of somebody preparing food for you. There is no greater act of love.

- Before you make any decision that could have irreparable consequences, use the maximum time that you have to consider it. For instance, before you buy a new car, no matter how certain you are, wait a few days and sleep on it. Before you get married, wait another year. Your mind is always changing and evolving, as is everything around you.

-Listen. It is better to use your ear before your mouth, always. Sometimes, a mouth is not needed and an ear will do fine.

-Learn to concede and move on.You don't always have to have everything your way. Often times the cost of conflict will outweigh the payoff of winning.

BIG TIME MASTER wrote:Women need a consistent source of positive attention in order to not become gremlins. If you are worried about your lady friend becoming a gremlin, try waking her up in the middle of the night just to tell her that you love her. It's ok to do this two or more times a night.

Please don't do that. I would falcon punch someone in the nuts for waking me up in the middle of the night two or more times. ("WTF DO YOU WAAAAAAANT? I'M TRYING TO SLEEP!")

Anywho, if your lady friend needs constant reassurance in order to not turn into a raging pinkberry, she has some real self-esteem issues / insecurities that should be addressed. :pale:


I can see where you are going with this, but simple gestures of affection are enough. I just don't think it's necessary to wake someone up in the middle of the night to say "I love you".

Being a male, I know I wouldn't like that, maybe women think differently, but I would gauge what sort of a sleeper your girlfriend is before trying that.

I know how bunny would take it.

A bag of kittens and a hammer can work wonders for anger issues.

WhatDoesThePendantDo? wrote:Being a male, I know I wouldn't like that, maybe women think differently, but I would gauge what sort of a sleeper your girlfriend is before trying that.

I know how bunny would take it.

Yeah, I can assure you a woman would not think any differently.
You're more likely to get cut-eye than an "I love you, too." :|

Try waking up early in the morning and making her breakfast in bed instead.

The lady-friend advice was just a joke. Kind of. Women are peculiar creatures and still remain a mystery to this day.



That advice about listening is solid.
I was going to repeat an old phrase, "You got two ears and one mouth, use them accordingly."

Seriously though, there are fewer people who listen than talk, and if you are one of the listeners you will find yourself with many friends. You don't even have to stoke the conversation, lots of people just enjoy talking to someone who simply listens attentively. It's always good to have friends.

I trying to make myself into a practical man, and I see listening to be a very practical skill. As I'm still a teenager, I find plentiful opportunities to practice my listening.

That is very good.

Not to brag, but I've been commended many times for my listening. My only problem is responding effectively and efficiently to any questions. [That's why I prefer to listen only (for now)]



I would also like to make light of the man who is suggesting wholesome advice while being located inside the "Ladies' Bathroom"

Tis better to keep your mouth shut and let people wonder whether or not you are a fool, than to open it and remove all doubt.


True wisdom lies in the knowledge that you know nothing.

There ain't nothing dumb about just being quiet a lot of times.

EeAyEss wrote:
I would also like to make light of the man who is suggesting wholesome advice while being located inside the "Ladies' Bathroom"

It smells good in here.

I'm also a bit cynical, I consider most people (read: my peers and some adults) to be stupid until proven intelligent. I've often... er... overestimated my peers'... mental capacity.

-Always consider the cost and payoff of everything, because everything has a cost and payoff.

It takes all kinds of people to make the world go around. Most people that you might consider "dumb" are not dumb at all, they might just not have as good of an education.

Not knowing and dumb are totally different. As to a persons maturity, that is something you can teach by your own example.

BIG TIME MASTER wrote:
- When cooking in a pan, it is rarely ever necessary to go above medium heat. When in doubt, start with a lower heat than you think might be necessary.

I disagree on this, stir-fry's require you to fire up your pan till the oil is smoking so you can get that quick fry going before you douse it off and start on the sauce.

On topic of this thread:
"If you have to wonder, it's not a fart".

I try to tell myself that. I'm getting over it. But too often, I see common sense absent from people that should clearly have an understanding of common sense, and to some degree logic.


-You don't have to care about everyone, and you don't have to try to please everyone. There are winners and losers, and there will always be people you don't like.

-Just because there are winners and losers, doesn't mean the losers should be treated poorly and have a crappy life. Winners should help alleviate the pain of the losers. Keyword: Help.

"Critical thinking does not mean believing everything you read off the internet and abstaining from proper media sources"

Yes, yes, stir fry is a special technique. BUUUUUUT, for everything else, play it safe. Nothing worse than a burnt pancake. Especially when you've really been craving some pancakes.

densetsushun wrote:"Critical thinking does not mean believing everything you read off the internet and abstaining from proper media sources"

Why do I feel that that is a little stab at this thread? :suspect:

-Learn to take a joke. You should not be in a serious mood every minute of every hour of every day of every week of every month of every year of every decade of every century of your life.

-Learn to discern what should be taken seriously and what shouldn't be taken seriously.

BIG TIME MASTER wrote:Yes, yes, stir fry is a special technique. BUUUUUUT, for everything else, play it safe. Nothing worse than a burnt pancake. Especially when you've really been craving some pancakes.

Someone has been speaking from experience.

- If you want to wake up feeling refreshed and limber, eat a light dinner and never after six in the evening.

- Go to sleep before nine pm. Just try it for a week. Life is so much better when you are well rested every day.

- If you can't fall asleep, your life is out of balance. Sleeping should come natural, and never turn to drugs to fall asleep. Check your diet, daily exercise, and stress factors.

EeAyEss wrote:

BIG TIME MASTER wrote:Yes, yes, stir fry is a special technique. BUUUUUUT, for everything else, play it safe. Nothing worse than a burnt pancake. Especially when you've really been craving some pancakes.

Someone has been speaking from experience.

The horror, the horror.


But lets not talk about that.

I go to bed around 9 every evening. I wake up at 5 to go run.

-Find a distraction from everyday life (read: hobbies) to help alleviate stress from the serious things.

Here's some advice that a read a couple days ago and something that I feel is important:

Acknowledge that you don't get to define other people's comfort level with you.

Which is to say that you may be trying your hardest to be interesting and engaging and fun to be around — and still come off as a creeper to someone else. Yes, that sucks for you. But you know what? It sucks for them even harder, because you're creeping them out and making them profoundly unhappy and uncomfortable. It may not seem fair that "creep" is their assessment of you, but: Surprise! It doesn't matter, and if you try to argue with them (or anyone else) that you're in fact not being a creep and the problem is with them not you, then you go from "creep" to "complete assbag." Sometimes people aren't going to like you or want to be near you. It's just the way it is.