Thanks all 3 of you for your answers. Don't mind the wall of text at all. Trying to take advantage of any good advice I can get. From all of your explanations it sounds to me like Sejauni is my buy. I like Malphite because he can soak up damage while dealing a ton of his own and adding crowd control. The combination of his passive, with high health items, and the speed and range of his abilities coupled with their potential to deal high damage is just awesome. At least as far as my play style. I also like how adding high hp to his passive pretty much allows you to kamikaze and remain dangerous at a lower level. You can slam right into the enemy lines, whether it's an unsurvivable situation or not in order to put squishier, or lowish health champions out of commission fast, die, then come back to the line lower level and still be dangerous, if you play it right, because they'll only be hitting your damage shield and not your health. His slows are really nice for both chasing and being chased too. All that considered I think Sejuani seems like the best option for me.
Just for the record Wukong and J4 both seem like amazing choices though. I'm sure I'll do both eventually. I've seen both be amazing. I got taken to school by a Wukong with Nasus last week. I top laned alone against him and a Thresh. We won. I destroyed the Thresh the whole game, but it got to a point where I was slowing him then running every time I saw Wukong. He kept saving his move that tosses you up in the air then timing it so that every time I tried to Q him he interrupted me with crowd control. It was really impressive. I've teamed up with a bunch of talented Jarvins too. This one guy was really funny. Kept waiting for me to use my ult with Nasus then trapping our enemies inside his ult with me. Worked so well.
How's Thresh? He seems like he has potential to be devastating too. I fought one that kept hitting me with his move that drags you from inside brush and pulling me into hiding groups of his team. Thankfully I was laning with someone that was pretty good with interrupting him.
I'm definitely still learning. I wouldn't consider myself a skilled player at all, but I win a lot more games than I lose. I think I've only lost 3 PvP games. I've played 1v1 on that bridge map a few times too, and I've never lost there. I definitely get out-skilled in my lane pretty frequently though. What I think I'm good at is cooperating. That's why I like tanking. I think coordinating attacks and defenses is the most fun part of the game. That's whats frustrating me about playing with randos that don't care about the team. All the games I've played where I've gone in with friends, specifically these two guys I've been playing with regularly, we take them to school.
Just had such a good game. Keep having games where the enemy just destroys one lane and pushes into our base then we push back together and win. This one they pushed bot all the way but we were ahead by like 20 kills and just out leveled them. We were all 18 to their like 14/15 in the end and they just couldn't get near us.
Speaking of a wall of text. Ahem.